The two business and three school age children family

26 October 2017

The Beginning:
“I am soo proud of you, I know you weren’t happy in your job and know that this business is just what you need. It’s great that I have my own business too as I can have the flexibility to help out”

The Middle (sometimes):
“I need you home at 5 as I have to open the restaurant”
“Yeah sure”
“Where are You? Its 4.50?”
“Just finishing off something.. I will meet you at the restaurant”
“F_____, come on kids, in the car and bring some toys”
“Hey… stop wrestling, don’t make a mess, you can’t still be hungry, Dad will be here soon (expletive, expletive!!!)

The End:
There are various ends to this scenario.
Hire a nanny
Sell your business
Go to marriage counselling
Divorce
Compromise, compromise, compromise
The list goes on….

Change is never easy and having two business minded lunatics under the one roof and 3 great, but active children has its challenges. For me, my first business wasn't the best time and I sold out my share to my business partner after a couple of years. That being said, I would still have done it, but now, older and wiser perhaps I would do things differently.

How you might ask? Firstly, I would let go of the mother guilt that one of us should be with the kids all the time and the ego that limited my ability to compromise - I saw my husband's sometimes poor time management as a reflection that he didn’t value my business (and me). Looking back, I should have been grateful for all that he did, lowered my expectations and outsource as much stuff as I could! The beauty of hindsight, hey?

You will be pleased to hear that business number two, a few years later with older children and a more mature marriage (yes to same man) has really hit the spot and we are all soo happy!

Until next time...